He says to put the men on probabtion till they have proved they are worthy of her 'benefits' . I agree you should not sleep with a guy before you know him. Besides, I might start getting suspicious that you're giving it up to some else. I would also like to say I have not made any opinion myself, only stated from the book, I wanted to see what men thought about 90 days. But it is not hard to tell which guys will stick around and which think you are just good for that night. It is a game some it would depend on the situation or how i know the girl , in some cases it might be ok to not doing anything with her over such a period , especially if we were just friends and just geting to know each other . I would agree that you should know the person rather well. "IF" I hung around, which is doubtful, I'd prolly just dump her on day 91............after "getting the cookie"! I mean, taking relationship advice from a comedian? BTW, Steve Harvey does NOT speak for all "MAN"-kind. In the new Tyler Perry movie based on the Steve Harvey book called "Act like a woman, think like a man".....there is a 90 day rule which says when dating; a woman should wait 90 days before having sex with a man...order to make sure he really loves her and is not out to just hit it and quit it.... In the new Tyler Perry movie based on the Steve Harvey book called "Act like a woman, think like a man".....there is a 90 day rule which says when dating; a woman should wait 90 days before having sex with a man...order to make sure he really loves her and is not out to just hit it and quit it....Ladies, how do you feel bout this and do you take part in the "90-day rule"?We don’t know what he thinks of you yet because, quite frankly, he could be telling you anything.There hasn’t been time to build any trust, respect, adoration or love.Not sleeping with someone you just met for two weeks is not considered holding out, queen. Think of dating as a time to gather data or collect information about someone new for fun or to see if he’s a match. There are also millions of women and men who get to know their partner in other ways before getting physical.

My own personal opinion is that two people should find out early on in a relationship if they are sexually compatible or not.I think a woman who adheres to that is not going to be dating me.In fact, a woman who sees sex as giving something up is not going to be dating me no matter how soon she gives it up. Feels like something to use as leverage on some unsuspecting guy.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. If a girl even hinted I had to be "worthy" to sleep with her, it would be over at that very second. On the other hand, you can probably decide whether or not they are worthy way before the 90-day period is up, unless you aren't putting a lot of time and effort into things. Just what makes you think that having sex is somehow devaluing anything?I am just reading a book-Act like a Lady, Think like a man by Steve Harvey.(#1 best seller) Steve is “Encouraging women to have the men wait at least 90 days before having sex with them. The rule is for women to not give up the *cookie* for 90 days but have the man wait until he is proven “worthy” of her feminine benefits. Sex is something two people do together because they enjoy each other and find each other attractive. EDIT: I didn't want to take up another post with this question. If you both agree you want it, then there is nothing wrong with having sex with someone you have only known a month, or two for that matter. A better, more sensible rule is not to have sex with anyone you aren't sure you could spend a whole lot of time with.